February 4, 2026 You think you’re flirting.
Meanwhile, your nervous system has opened a file.
Not for answers.
For patterns.
Just watching how someone responds to you.
The Rule
Interest reveals more than answers ever could.
The Contrast
You’re watching the small tells.
The pause before they answer.
The shift in tone when you disagree.
What happens when you don’t laugh on cue.
How they handle not being the center of the room.
You notice who relaxes when you take up space.
And who starts managing you when you do.
You’re not collecting data.
You’re watching for control leaks.
That’s the interview.
The Reframe
You don’t need someone’s résumé.
You need their response pattern.
How they handle:
• your boundaries
• your humor
• your pace
• your availability
And most importantly, what they do when you’re at capacity.
When you’re tired.
When you can’t be charming.
When life is heavy and you’re not at your best.
Do they disappear?
Do they get distant?
Do they make it about themselves?
Or do they stay.
That tells you more than any “what are you looking for?” conversation ever could.
Because people lie with words.
They’re honest with behavior.
Especially when they’re interested.
