Today’s lesson is something people keep pretending is complicated.

You’re not “just dating,” you’re running a full recruitment process and acting like it’s fate.

You notice how fast they reply, you clock their tone, you remember what they say, what they don’t say,
and what mysteriously disappears after week two.

But you don’t call it what it is, because it sounds less romantic when you admit you’re basically HR with
better hair.

Which is fine. Most people prefer a fantasy over a spreadsheet.

The Rule

Dating is behavioral screening, not romantic fate.

You’re not asking questions out loud, but internally you’re running checks like:

• Do they follow through, or do they freelance promises?
• Do they listen, or do they just wait for their turn to talk?
• Do they respect boundaries, or do they treat them like suggestions?
• Do they disappear for five days and come back like a raccoon who knocked over your trash but thinks you won’t notice?

Darling, this isn’t chemistry.
This is a full background check Veronica Mars would run, double-check, and still side-eye.

You’re not falling in love.
You’re conducting multiple interview rounds and calling it “the vibe was interesting.”

This isn’t cynicism.
It’s pattern recognition.

Finally, your trust has caught up to your standards.

You’re not doing background checks to punish anyone or avenge your ex.
You’re doing them because charm is everywhere and consistency is as rare as a unicorn.

This isn’t about interrogating people or turning dating into a courtroom drama.
It’s about not volunteering yourself for confusion and calling it romance.

You don’t need to confront.
There’s no need to explain or “see where it goes.”

You just observe what shows up when nothing is being demanded.

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