January 14, 2026 Let’s talk about being busy.
Because somewhere along the line, “I’ve been so busy” became the emotional equivalent of a
get-out-of-jail-free card.
Busy doing what, exactly?
Running a Fortune 500 company?
Performing emergency surgery?
Or simply vibing in silence while scrolling and avoiding accountability?
Because here’s the thing — lean in close:
BUSY PEOPLE STILL COMMUNICATE.
They might not have long conversations.
They might not text all day.
But they don’t disappear and reappear like a pop-up ad you didn’t consent to.
“I’ve been busy” is not a personality.
It’s not a communication style.
And it’s definitely not a relationship plan.
Busy looks like:
• “I can’t talk long, but I wanted to check in.”
• “I’m slammed this week, can we plan for next?”
• “Today’s wild, but I didn’t forget about you.”
Busy does not look like:
• ignoring calls like they never happened
• promising to call “after this week” and then entering witness protection
• popping back up with “hey sexy” like the previous silence was a
._buffering issue.
That’s not busy.
That’s doing the absolute least and hoping it passes.
And what makes it worse is when you finally say something — calmly, respectfully — and suddenly you’re the problem.
Now you’re “too much.”
You’re “overthinking.”
Now they need “space.”
Funny how space only gets requested when responsibility walks in uninvited.
Here’s the truth we don’t love admitting, but need to:
When someone pulls back because you spoke up, they weren’t overwhelmed.
They were inconvenienced.
Your clarity disrupted their comfort.
Your boundary interrupted their autopilot.
And suddenly, the vibe shifted.
That’s not sensitivity.
That’s resistance.
And this is where people usually mess it up.
They go back, explain again. Reword. Soften.
They try to make their needs more “digestible.”
No.
